Choose yourself.

“For a star to be born there’s one thing that must happen: A gaseous nebula must collapse. So collapse. Crumble. This is not your destruction. This is your birth.” ~N.T.

I came across this quote in a book I'm reading, and it reminded me of a conversation I recently had with someone.

This person has been experiencing an ENORMOUS amount of stress in her life. She's been juggling so many balls for so long, that a seemingly small disruption totally derailed her.

I so get it. My heart goes out to her as I've been there before myself.

I once went through a long period where I had so many things I thought I absolutely had to do, that I didn't even know how to begin to break free.

I felt so trapped by pressure and obligations that I started to completely lose myself. I disconnected from who I was, because the qualities of "that person" were not ones that were in alignment with what I was trying to accomplish. I had put aside my own ideas of what success and happiness looked like, in order to squeeze into more traditionally acceptable definitions. 

So what's a girl to do in this kind of situation?

THIS girl decided that if the things she was doing were in opposition to who she was at her core, then those things weren't worth doing. This girl tapped into what she valued and wanted, and chose herself over the other stuff. This girl stopped juggling.

There may be some crumbling involved as you let go of that which is not working.

But as you start making choices that ARE in alignment with who you truly are, you begin to build a strong foundation for yourself. Step by step, you create a life on this base which feels amazing and genuine and energizing.

So collapse, if you must. This is not your destruction. This is your birth.

Denise Csaky