Who are you waiting to get permission from?

I remember a time in my 20s when I going through a rough spot with someone I was dating.

I was on my lunch break at work and had a little time, so I popped into the bookstore that was downstairs from my office.

Looking for some inspiration, I headed over to one of my favorite sections: personal growth.

A book with a colorful cover caught my eye, so I picked it up. The subject? Whether or not to stay in your relationship.


Curious, I flipped to a random page and what I read really struck me.

It asked: If God, or someone I totally trusted, were to tell me right now that it was OK for me to leave, would I do it?

I stood there wide-eyed, book in hand, feeling caught off-guard.

But suddenly it was clear. I WAS waiting for someone to say that it was alright to go. That everything would be fine, and that it was the right thing to do.

From where I stand now, I can see that I already knew that on some level. But it took reading those words from someone else to confirm it for me.

I needed to hear from some external source, what I already knew to be true, before I was ready to accept it.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not beating myself (or anyone else) up over feeling this way. We, humans, need connection and support! It is helpful for most of us to be able to talk things out with someone we trust.

However it’s interesting. At that time, I didn’t have enough confidence in my gut to listen to it.

Heck, I was so busy making most of my choices out of fear and uncertainty, that I was practically deaf to what my intuition was telling me.

But things have changed.

It’s kind of amazing how different life can look and feel, when you’re connected with yourself enough to hear your intuition’s wisdom, have faith in what it’s telling you and have the courage to act on it.

The beautiful thing is that the more you do this, the easier life becomes, the clearer your gut’s messages are, and the more proof you collect about how following your intuition leads you to the right answer.

Where in your life might you be waiting for someone to tell you that it’s OK, before you can take action?

If you were to get that green light, would you do it?

Knowing that, what’s stopping you?

Denise Csaky