What does jealousy teach you about yourself?

Here’s a twist on jealousy. This powerful feeling is usually labelled as negative. But what if you used it to learn more about yourself?

Jealousy shines a light on a desire that’s within you. It does you the FAVOR of showing you what you want, gives you a goal to work toward and the motivation to really go for it!

Next time you feel this emotion come up, ask yourself:

  • What is it SPECIFICALLY about this object or situation that really sparks jealousy within me?
  • How do I imagine I’d feel if I had the object of my desire?
  • What quality does the “owner of this desire” have, that I wish I also possessed? (i.e. what characteristics or traits do they have?)
  • How can I create more of this quality in myself?
Denise Csaky